If Homemakers Cannot Find Validation In That Role, Then Something Vital Is Missing From Their Lives

 
 
 
 
 
 
Better to have a workforce “career” wife who is faithful, trustworthy, and gives herself to no one but you than a homemaker who is an adulteress but before anyone thinks this is a smear on trad wives, it is not.  If that traditional structure can be achieved by a couple, then by all means it should be pursued, especially with children involved, as it is the optimal and ideal arrangement, but this item from the Revolver News publication made a shocking and surprising claim about infidelity among housewives being higher than among women in the workforce and the reason why housewives are said to be more likely to commit adultery, according to the report is, according to one expert, due to “idle time, boredom, and a desperate need for validation” [1]
 
That is not to say that homemaking is not by any means time-consuming, but with modern technology and conveniences, tasks that once may have been more physically demanding and may have even taken hours to do, are now done much more efficiently and within a much less amount of time than they used to be, even with children involved, and when children are sent off to school, even more time in the day opens up and after they have taken care of the needs of their children, sent them off to school, and done all of the household chores, what then do they do with themselves? And if there does end up being a substantial amount of downtime throughout most of the days of the week and there is nothing meaningful and productive to do, then idle hand really are the devil’s workshop and if a woman cannot find enough to do at home during the day and is becoming that bored with her life, it does make one wonder whether or not she might be better off assisting her husband with bringing in income, even if that means taking on at least a part-time job and especially when at some point, the children do not occupy as much of her time as they used to.
 
Children, in the early years of their life, may very well take much of a woman’s times, but as children mature, they become a little more independent and require a little less care and attention as they get older and when they become teenagers and spend less time at home than they used to, and I think it is very important for homemakers to plan out the rest of their lives and decide what it is they want to do with themselves when children take up less of their time than they used to and when they eventually enter into adulthood, leave the house, and chart out their own course.
 
Those early time-consuming years do not last forever even if they seem like they do and it is understandable as to how homemakers can become accustomed to constant activity and when it diminishes or ends altogether, it is understandable that they all of a sudden don’t know what to do with themselves and so, they become bored and unfulfilled and so begin looking for a sense of worth in things other than motherhood and homemaking and this especially becomes the case when a husband is so busy providing for the family that has little or no time for the family and so the wife begins to feel both emotionally and intimately neglected and so becomes tempted to seek emotional and even intimate attention from what is not her husband and that includes seeking out other men for that attention.
 
Boredom, idle time, and a need for validation are no excuse for committing adultery but there are two other things that the Revolver publication does not take into account.  Firstly, it does not take into account the motives that drive women to pursue homemaking.  We have assumed, at least in this culture, that women who pursue homemaking are doing so, not because they have to,  but because that is what they want to do (which is how it should be) and because they want to spend more time with their children and be better able to maintain the home and make it a place to which their husband wants to come home but what is not being taken into consideration is that even the most respectable, honorable, and godly roles can still be pursued with wrong motives and while granted there are wives and mothers who do pursue homemaking for the reasons that they should, there are also those who pursue homemaking simply because they are lazy and would rather mooch off of a man’s resources rather than earn the resources for themselves and it is those women who decide to stay at home because they simply don’t want to work and just be a leech and I believe it is the women who would rather just stay at home because they don’t want to work and would rather live off of a man’s wages who are the most likely to get themselves into needless trouble.
 
We should applaud and commend the women who pursue homemaking for the right reasons, but at the same time, how many women are not pursuing homemaking for the right reasons, but simply because they are lazy, don’t want to work, and would rather live off of a man’s resources?
 
And secondly, and most importantly, there is a void in all of us that no occupation, no matter how respectable and honorable it might, will ever fill whether it be homemaking or a work and career outside of the home.  The reason why women feel a need for validation beyond what they might receive from their husbands and children is the reason why men feel the need for some sense of worth beyond what they receive at work or from their wives and children and that is due to a longing that resides in all of us for lasting meaning and purpose in this life.
 
We were not meant to simply exist but were all meant to live lives filled with meaning and with purpose and if we are left feeling with a need for validation, it is because we are not looking to the source of all meaning, purpose, and validation, and are even estranged from Him, for it is not without reason or a purpose in mind that God created the Heavens and the earth and all that is in them for He created all things for His glory and good pleasure and there is not a thing that exists today that He did not make (Jn.1:13) but when we refuse to submit ourselves to His authority, when we refuse to give Him the reverence that He is due, and when we refuse to do that which is good and pleasing in His eyes, we then cut ourselves off the meaning and purpose in our lives that we might otherwise have.
 
The woman in the workforce who has the love and fear of God in her is going to feel a greater sense of fulfillment and purpose than the trad-wife in whom is not the love and fear of God and likewise, the trad-wife who has the love and fear of God in her is going to have a greater sense of fulfillment than the career-minded woman who does not have the love and fear of God in her because no matter what it is you do, if you don’t have the love and fear of God in you and if He is not honored in all that you do, then you are going to be left with a sense of emptiness and a void that nothing else can ever fill apart from God and it is from God alone that we will all receive our final rewards, honors, and validations, but it is also from Him that the final sentences, punishments, and condemnations will also be given because there will come a day that we will all have to stand before God Almighty to give an account for all that we have done in this present life and every act, every word spoken, every motive, and even every thought of ours will be taken into account and there is not one person on this earth who has not sinned or fallen short of the glory of God (Rom. 3:23) and just as God is perfect in character, so He is also perfect in His justice which means all sin, including every sinful and wicked thought, is subject to punishment and judgment and it is due to sin within us that the goodness of even the best of us falls short of the moral perfection that God requires and demands of us and the reason why God demands perfection in character is because He created all things in perfection before they all fell into imperfection and before they all fell into imperfection, the world that God had created was world in which existed a perfect peace and a perfect and uninterrupted harmony between God, man, and nature, until the day that a certain and consequential act of disobedience of astronomical proportions was committed by the first man Adam and the first woman Eve, being Adam’s wife and this act of disobedience was in the eating of a fruit from a certain tree called the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, having been warned of God that in the day that the ate the fruit thereof, they would surely die (Gen. 2:16-17, 3:3) and when they ate of that forbidden fruit, the sentence of death to which they eventually succumbed was pronounced upon them (Gen. 3:19) but the consequences of their disobedience did not stop with them as they were extended to the rest of mankind which is the reason why we are all inherently sinful and inwardly corrupt by nature since we are all descended from them (Rom. 5:12) and it is this inward corruption of our nature that causes us to sin and sin is the reason why we all die, for as it is written, the wages of sin is death, (Rom. 6:23) but the consequences of sin did not stop with mankind but extended to all of creation as well, for as it is written that the entire creation groans and travails in pain to this day (Rom. 8:19-22) which is the reason for the death, suffering, evil, darkness, and misery that we see and experience in this world and is the reason why nothing in our world, including our own bodies, is the way it should be and worst of all, the sin that entered into Adam and Eve upon their eating of the forbidden fruit and was then passed down to the rest of us has caused a separation and an estrangement between us and our Maker which, without sin, would not exist and it is due to the increase of sin and wickedness that this present world will face eventual judgment for though the Lord God Almighty has patiently born with the evil present within this world, He cannot allow it to continue forever and must eventually eliminate all sin and that means eliminating all who are still in their sin when that day comes and any who remain in their sins have nothing to look forward to but an eternity of everlasting judgment filled with an unrelenting torment in the fires and darkness of Hell itself but because the Lord God is not a God who desires or takes pleasure in punishment or judgment, but is a God of love and mercy, and is not willing that any should perish in their sins and face eternal damnation, (2 Pet. 3:9) but that all would come to repentance, and therefore has done for us what we could never do for ourselves in that He, in His graciousness has purchased redemption on our behalf in Christ Jesus, His only begotten Son, (Jn. 3:16) who came to us in the flesh, (Jn. 1:14) and being without any sin (2 Cor. 5:21) was made that perfect sacrifice (Heb. 7:26-27) that was needed to take away the sins of the world and because of His perfect goodness, He was able to offer Himself up on our behalf to satisfy the demanded penalty for all sin and granting mercy and grace through the shedding of His blood on the cross and after having died, rose again from the dead three days later that we might be justified in Him (Rom. 4:25) if we will but call upon His name so that we might be saved from what would otherwise be a terrifying everlasting punishment if we will but call upon His name (Rom. 10:9, 13) and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead (Rom. 10:9) for it is by calling upon His name in sincere repentance that salvation is granted and our souls made clean from sin thereby liberating us from the threat of eternal damnation and with that cleansing comes a new spiritual transformation (2 Cor. 5:17) that causes us to no longer desire to follow after selfish and worldly pursuits but after those things that pertain to the Kingdom of Heaven,
to no longer take pleasure in those things that are evil and displeasing in the sight of the Lord, but in that which is good, right, and pleasing in His sight,
to no longer desire to walk in the lies of this present world, but only in the truth that comes from Christ Almighty who is the source of all truth, (Jn. 14:6)
no longer placing our hopes in the things of this present world, but looking forward to that new and better world to come, (Rev. 21-22)
to no longer rely on worldly resources, men, or even our own power, abilities, skills, and wisdom for our needs and provision but upon God who is able to meet all of our needs, recognizing that the resources of this world and even the people He brings into our lives are but instruments and vessels through which God meets our needs and that the skills, power, knowledge, and wisdom by which we might acquire our provision are provided and instilled in us by God, (Mt. 6:25-33)
to no longer fear what men can do to us, but rather fearing the God before whom we will have to one day give an account for how we lived our lives, (Mt. 10:28)
to no longer look to corruptible institutions within our society for direction and order in our lives but to God who, by His written Word has given us laws and precepts to be applied to our lives and which serve to produce and maintain an ordered life, and who, by His Holy Spirit which comes to dwell within us upon repentance, establishes in our lives a course and direction in our lives to pursue for His glory,
to no longer seek our own glory but the glory of God,
to no longer rally behind corruptible men, but instead behind the incorruptible God in Heaven bearing in mind that those men and women God raises up for our edification are but instruments and servants of His for that respective purpose to which He has called them,
to no longer seek to align ourselves with the things of darkness but only with the things of the light,
to no longer trust in the wisdom of the world but only on the wisdom and knowledge that comes from above, (Jas. 1:5) nor depend on corruptible earthly authorities to swiftly administer justice, but only in the power of God to deliver us from evil.
 
And it is this new inward transformation that reconciles us to our Creator (2 Cor. 5:18) from whom we had once been estranged and just as our souls are cleansed from sin and our spirits regenerated in Christ Jesus thereby liberating us from the eternal tormenting punishment that must come upon all who remain in their sins, so one day we look forward to the liberation of our bodies from death itself when our mortal and corruptible forms are transformed into that which is immortal and incorruptible and from that which is imperfect to that which is perfect (1 Cor. 15:51-55, 1 Thess. 4:13-18) and lastly, creation itself will be delivered from the curse placed upon it because of sin when it is made into a new and better world. (Rev. 21-22)
 
And as for those of us who have embraced this Gospel of hope and salvation, what then is our ultimate purpose in the world but that we also should, as often as opportunity is given to us, share the good and wonderful news of salvation, hope, and peace (Mt. 28:18-20, Mk. 16:15-16) which can only be found in Christ Jesus and to persuade as many as we possibly can to repentance so that they too may also escape from what would otherwise be a terrible, fearful, and everlasting judgment.  Will all listen? No.  Will all responses be positive? No.  But there will always be those who do respond to the call.
 
And if you reader have not yet called upon the name of the Lord Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins but find your life lacking in meaning and purpose and feel as if you are only existing no matter what it is that you do or have tried to fill your life with, then I urge you then to call upon the name of the Lord Jesus for the forgiveness of sins so that you may be saved from what will otherwise be an everlasting damnation filled with an unrelenting and never ending torment and with that salvation, a sense of newfound purpose and meaning that you never had before.
 
 
 
"Lord Jesus I need you.
 
 
I realize that I am a sinner
who has fallen short of the glory of God
and that my goodness falls short
of your standard of Moral perfection.
 
Please forgive me of all of my sins.
Come into my heart and into my life
to be the Savior and Lord of my life.
Make me into the servant and follower
that you want me to be.
In your name Lord Jesus, I pray.
 
 
Amen."
 
 
Know that God is not concerned with the words that you use to call upon Him forgiveness, but with the attitude of your heart and if you have, with all sincerity, have asked Christ to forgive you of your sins, placing your trust in Him only for your salvation and in nothing else, then your sins are forgiven and your place in Heaven is certain.
 
 
 
 
End notes:
 
 
 
1. “Why do so many female homemakers cheat? The answer is surprisingly simple…” Revolver News, December 10, 2025
https://revolver.news/2025/12/why-do-so-many-female-homemakers-cheat-the-answer-is-surprisingly-simple/
 
 
 
Scripture references:
 
 
 
1.  John 1:3
 
2.  Romans 3:23
 
3.  Genesis 2:16-17, 3:3
 
4.  Genesis 3:19
 
5.  Romans 5:12
 
6.  Romans 6:23
 
7.  Romans 8:19-22
 
8.  2 Peter 3:9
 
9.  John 3:16
 
10.  John 1:14
 
11.  2 Corinthians 5:21
 
12.  Hebrews 7:26-27
 
13.  2 Corinthians 5:17
 
14.  John 14:6
 
15.  Revelation 21-22
 
16.  Matthew 6:25-33
 
17.  Matthew 10:28
 
18.  James 1:5
 
19.  2 Corinthians 5:18
 
20.  1 Corinthians 15:51-55
 
21.  1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
 
22.  Matthew 28:18-20, Mark 16:15-16