If You Are A Strong And Independent Woman…(Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is)

 


A strong and independent woman will not expect her husband or prospective husband to pay for every outing.
 
A strong and independent woman will not expect her husband or prospective husband to help pay off her student loans but will accept full responsibility for that debt though granted she will appreciate any help her husband or prospective husband is willing and able to give.
 
A strong and independent woman will do her fair share and pull her own weight and if necessary, that includes assisting her husband in supplying an income to sustain their household.  She will not expect her husband or prospective husband to do everything for her.
 
A strong and independent woman will not expect a man to surprise her with gifts all the time even though those moments may be nice and thoughtful.  She will love and appreciate him only for who he is and not for any gifts he brings.  The only gift she will ever need from him is just him being there and being a faithful, trustworthy, honest, and intimate companion.
 
A strong and independent woman will not expect a man to take her on a vacation all the time and even if he does, she will be willing to pay for some of the travel expenses.
 
A strong and independent woman will take responsibility for the children that she chose to bring into the world or adopt and she will only marry a man for love and intimate companionship and not for what he can give, do, or even provide and the man she marries will be more to her than just a helping hand or parenting partner as she will recognize and apply the principles needed for a strong, secure, lasting, and fulfilling marriage and those principles needed for a successful marriage are not changed by her circumstances but apply just as much to her and her husband as they would if she were childless as she will value her marriage and her husband every bit as much as she does her children.
 
A strong and independent woman will not desert or abandon her husband during dark or hard times but will remain with him in both the good times and in the bad times and will bear and endure all things with her husband (both good and bad).
 
A strong and independent woman will take responsibility for her own behavior and actions instead of passing the buck.  She will not even use the hurts and disappoints of the past to justify any bad actions or bad behavior on her part and will be willing to accept the consequences of any bad decisions that she makes instead of running away from them or attempting to make others suffer for her mistakes, nor will she let her past, no matter how dark and sordid, dictate or define her present character.  Instead, she will strive for present better than her past in hopes of acquiring a future better than her past.
 
A woman who is truly strong and independent will be more reflective of what Genesis 2:18 says that she should be than a woman is weak and needy. 
 
A woman who is strong and independent will recognize that the attributes of strength and independence come from the God who made her.
 
A woman who is strong and independent will rely on God as the provider of all her needs and not a man.  A man she will only look to for the love and intimate companionship that is found in the sacred and holy bond of marriage if she so desires it.  That is not to say, however, that the man she marries should not strive to live a meaningful and productive life, but his reasons for doing so should not be to win her love and hand in marriage, but only to survive (2 Thess. 3:10) and to spread goodness (Eph. 4:28). The love of a strong and independent woman and her hand in marriage will be given freely to the man she is able and willing to give it to and without requiring him to earn it because love earned is not love at all.
 
A strong and independent woman knows and understands that irrespective of her circumstances that marriage is not just about her or her needs, but that the marital bond is also about the man she chooses to marry and that not everything revolves around just her and he will be just as much of a priority to her as her children if she has any whether they be children that she has had with him or children from a previous relationship.
 
A strong and independent woman will want to be a wife that her husband or prospective husband can be proud of and who is able to retain his trust and confidence.
 
A strong and independent woman will not expect her husband or prospective husband to be all powerful, have every answer or solution to every problem or adversity that arises but will recognize that he, like herself, is limited in his power, strength, and abilities and that he, like herself, is but flesh and instead she will place her full faith and confidence in the God with whom all things are possible. (Mt. 19:26)
 
A strong and independent woman will be willing to do for her husband or her prospective husband what he cannot do for himself.
 
A strong and independent woman will be the woman that all the aforementioned describes (no if, ands, or buts and without exceptions or excuses)
 
 
 
Any woman who claims to be strong and independent and yet refuses to take responsibility for her own actions and bad decisions,
attempts to avoid the consequences of bad actions and behavior on her part,
does not display financial independence,
refuses to provide for herself and, if she has any, her children,
marries only out of convenience, financial, and material gain,
values a man only for what she can take from him and use him for and not for who he is, is lazy and unproductive,
refuses to carry her own weight but places everything on the shoulders of her spouse or prospective spouse,
refuses to meet her husband a part of the way,
does not make her relationship with her spouse or prospective spouse as much of a priority as her children,
is more concerned about her own needs than those of her spouse or prospective spouse,
and places more faith in a man to be her provider than in the God who is able to supply the needs of both the man and the woman is a liar and does not really know what it is to be strong and independent.
 
When God created the universe, Eve, the first woman God made, was every bit as independent and self-sufficient as her husband Adam, the first man God made, was as she was designed to not be his dependent, but his help meet and intimate companion (Gen. 2:18) and a help meet concerns herself only with what she can do in enhancing and bettering the life of the man and what she can do to support him in his endeavors.  A help meet does not pursue a man for selfish and self-serving purposes but only does so out of love for her prospective spouse and from a desire to be loved and cherished in turn and clearly women would have by nature remained that way towards men if it had not been for the selfish tendencies of sin which entered into man when he did the one thing that he was told not to do and that was the eating of a fruit from a certain tree called the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, having been warned of God that in the day that they ate thereof, they would surely die (Gen. 2:16-17, 3:3) but before the eating of that fruit, the world that God had created was a good world filled with light, life, contentment, and peace and in it existed a perfect harmony between God, man, and nature and between God and man, there existed an uninterrupted and unhindered fellowship and relationship until one day, the father and maker of bondage and tyranny crept into the world in the form of a serpent but before he came into the newly created world of peace, he was once an angel called Lucifer who served as a covering cherub at the throne of God until he became so lifted up in pride that he thought to make himself equal with God and in attempting to do so, he, and all who sided with him, were cast from their positions in Heaven (Is. 14:11-21, Ezek. 28:12-19) and it was in that day that Lucifer became known as Satan or the Devil and after having been cast from his place in Heaven, he then crept into the newly created world as a serpent and deceived Eve into eating of that forbidden fruit falsely assuring her that she and Adam would not die and then deceived them into thinking that they would receive wisdom that they did not already have and be elevated to a state superior than the one in which they were first created (Gen. 3:4-5) but after they had eaten of that forbidden fruit (v. 6) the only thing they were ever enlightened to was the shame that came upon their nakedness (v. 7) and their reduction to a status inferior than the one in which they were first created and instead of being spared the sentence of death, the sentence of death came upon them as they were warned (Gen. 3:19) and to which they eventually succumbed for it was when Adam and Eve had both eaten of that forbidden fruit that sin entered into them and with sin came death but the sentence of death and the effects of sin did not stop with Adam and Eve.
 
It was also passed down from them to all of mankind because we are all descended from them and by way of descent, we have inherited from Adam and Eve the sin that entered into them; sin not being merely confined to our actions or even what we say, but defined as the corrupted condition of our nature that we inherited from Adam and Eve (Rom. 5:12) into whom it first entered and it is a condition that does not just influence what we say and do but also defiles our thoughts, corrupts our motives, and darkens our hearts which is why it is written that we are not defiled by the things from without, but by what is from within (Mt. 15:11, 17-20) and it is that from within that causes us to sin and as a consequence, we are all subjugated to death (Rom. 6:23) and the lie told to Adam and Eve which caused them to commit the act of disobedience that brought sin and death not only to themselves but to all of us was the first known lie to be told and it was the lie by which Satan was made not only liar and a murderer, but also the father of lies (Jn. 8:44)  and it was also by this lie that he diminished the dominion that was once given to man (Gen. 1:26) and claimed for himself lordship over the nations, kingdoms, empires, and peoples of the earth (Mt. 4:8-9, Lk. 4:6-7) which is why he is called the prince of this world (Jn. 12:31, 16:11) and in doing so has ever through his many devices and temptations increased sin, evil, and death throughout the world and but not only has man through the disobedience of Adam been subjugated to death because of sin, but all of creation itself has also been made to groan and travail in pain to this day because of sin (Rom. 8:19-22) which is why there is so much death, evil, suffering, anguish, misery, grief, and sorrow throughout the world which also makes Satan the thief who comes to steal, kill, and destroy (Jn. 10:10) and what is even worst of all is that the adversary has caused us through sin to be born estranged from our Creator and because we are inwardly defiled by sin, we will always continue to sin and fall short of the glory of God (Rom. 3:23) which is why we can never place our trust in our own merit to gain His favor or to deliver us from the judgment that awaits all sin because our merit is corrupted and defiled by sin that is within us because God requires nothing less than moral perfection which is sinless because God, being without sin and Holy, cannot allow into His Kingdom, which is without sin, anything that is sinful or in sin or else the Kingdom of Heaven would be defiled by the taint of sin just as the earth itself has been defiled but we are not without hope nor are we without redemption for the Lord God Almighty is not willing that any should perish or be sentenced to eternal damnation, but that all would come to repentance (2 Pet. 3:9) and the offer of redemption that God gives is found in none other than the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the only begotten Son of God (Jn. 3:16) and who is Himself God (Jn. 1:1) having come to us in the flesh as a man (Jn. 1:14) to take away the sins of the world which He did by offering Himself up to take upon Himself on our behalf the demanded penalty for all sin which is death and He, being without sin (2 Cor. 5:21, Heb. 4:15) on behalf of sinful man, surrendered Himself to death and to the shedding of His blood upon the cross on which He was crucified and after having purchased our redemption by His death, was raised again from the dead so that we by our faith in Him will be justified in Him (Rom. 4:25) if we will but call upon His name so that we might be saved from what would otherwise be a terrifying everlasting punishment if we will but call upon His name (Rom. 10:9, 13) and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead (Rom. 10:9) for it is by calling upon His name in sincere repentance that salvation is granted and our souls made clean from sin thereby liberating us from the threat of eternal damnation and with that cleansing comes a new spiritual transformation (2 Cor. 5:17) that causes us to no longer desire to follow after selfish and worldly pursuits but after those things that pertain to the Kingdom of Heaven,
to no longer take pleasure in those things that are evil and displeasing in the sight of the Lord, but in that which is good, right, and pleasing in His sight,
to no longer desire to walk in the lies of this present world, but only in the truth that comes from Christ Almighty, (Jn. 14:6) no longer placing our hopes in the things of this present world, but looking forward to that new and better world to come, (Rev. 21-22)
to no longer rely on worldly resources, men, or even our own power, abilities, skills, and wisdom for our needs and provision but upon God who is able to meet all of our needs, (Mt. 6:33) recognizing that the resources of this world and even the people He brings into our lives are but instruments and vessels through which God meets our needs and that the skills, power, knowledge, and wisdom by which we might acquire our provision are provided and instilled in us by God,
to no longer fear what men can do to us, but rather fearing the God before whom we will have to one day give an account for how we lived our lives, (Mt. 10:28)
to no longer look to corruptible institutions within our society for direction and order in our lives but to God who, by His written Word has given us laws and precepts to be applied to our lives and which serve to produce and maintain an ordered life, and who, by His Holy Spirit which comes to dwell within us upon repentance, establishes in our lives a course and direction in our lives to pursue for His glory,
to no longer seek our own glory but the glory of God,
to no longer rally behind corruptible men, but instead behind the incorruptible God in Heaven bearing in mind that those men and women God raises up for our edification are but instruments and servants of His for that respective purpose to which He has called them,
to no longer seek to align ourselves with the things of darkness but only with the things of the light,
to no longer trust in the wisdom of the world but only on the wisdom and knowledge that comes from above, (Jas. 1:5) nor depend on corruptible earthly authorities to swiftly administer justice, but only in the power of God to deliver us from evil.
 
And it is this new inward transformation that reconciles us to our Creator (2 Cor. 5:18) from whom we had once been estranged and just as our souls are cleansed from sin and our spirits regenerated in Christ Jesus thereby liberating us from the eternal tormenting punishment that must come upon all who remain in their sins and it is this very change, if received by enough people, that potentially can bring about a change for the better in entire households in the manner of how they are run and maintained, and from there, the nature and condition of entire neighborhoods, communities, states/provinces, and entire nations, which then will have an impact and an affect upon the course of the culture and society; how education is taught, how businesses and corporations are operated, how news is reported, the quality and nature of entertainment that is produced, and finally how politics and civic governance are conducted.
 
Sin turned the woman into a dependent but her independence is restored in Christ.
Sin made the woman selfish, but she can be made selfless in Christ.
Sin made the woman to pursue men for selfish gain but her transformation in Christ will cause her to desire a man only out of love and a desire to be loved by him.
Sin made the woman to value herself above her husband but in Christ, she will want to be a wife who is able to make her husband proud of her and not ashamed of her and to be a joy to her husband and not a bringer of resentment and misery.
Sin makes women trust in men for material provision, but in Christ, they look to God alone as the supplier of all their needs, those of their husband, and, if they have any, those of their children.
And as sadly pointed out by one writer to a publication called News Of X, sin causes many, [though not all] women, to abandon the men they swore to stay with for the rest of their lives when hard times come, [1] but those who love and fear the Lord and who love their husbands will be wives born for all circumstances (favorable and unfavorable) and for all times (good and bad).
 
Let us pray for women to become more like the loving, intimate, and assisting companions to men that God originally created them to be (Gen. 2:18) and less like what this present world system, society, tradition, and culture have tried to mold them into but in order for them to become so, they need to undergo a spiritual transformation in Christ that will make them want to be what God originally intended for them to be.
 
Sin has corrupted and twisted the nature of women just as it has corrupted and twisted the nature of men since both are descended from one man and one woman into whom sin had entered by an act of disobedience on their part and inherit from Adam and from Eve the inward corruption of human nature that was produced in them when sin had entered into them upon the eating of that forbidden fruit but only in Christ will all things be set right and just as our souls have been cleansed from sin by Christ and have been inwardly transformed by that cleansing, so one day we will also be liberated from bodily death when that in which sin dwells is transformed into an incorruptible (1 Cor. 15:51-55, 1 Thess. 4;13-18) form in which dwells no sin for where there is no sin, there is no death and finally, creation itself will be liberated from the curse that came upon it because of sin when Satan is finally cast out of this world and faces his final defeat and delivered his final sentence (Rev. 20:10-15) and then afterward, creation will be made anew when this present creation is done away with and a new heaven and a new earth are put in its place in which there will be no sin, evil, death, decay, grief, sorrow, suffering, hardship, misery, or adversity of any kind but only goodness, light, life, peace, happiness, joy, harmony, and contentment before the Lord God Almighty. (Rev. 21-22)

"Lord Jesus I need you.
 
 
I realize that I am a sinner
who has fallen short of the glory of God
and that my goodness falls short
of your standard of Moral perfection.
 
Please forgive me of all of my sins.
Come into my heart and into my life
to be the Savior and Lord of my life.
Make me into the servant and follower
that you want me to be.
In your name Lord Jesus, I pray.
 
 
Amen."
 
 
Know that God is not concerned with the words that you use to call upon Him forgiveness, but with the attitude of your heart and if you have, with all sincerity, have asked Christ to forgive you of your sins, placing your trust in Him only for your salvation and in nothing else, then your sins are forgiven and your place in Heaven is certain.
 
 
 
End notes:
 
 
 
1.  Vivek Singh, ““I’m not a golddigger, I’m strong & independent. But,…” News Of X, March 31, 2024
https://newsofx2.com/2024/03/31/im-not-a-golddigger-im-strong-independent-but/
 
 
 
Scripture references:
 
 
 
 
1.  2 Thessalonians 3:10
 
2.  Ephesians 4:28
 
3.  Matthew 19:26
 
4.  Genesis 2:18
 
5.  Genesis 2:16-17,3:3
 
6.  Isaiah 14:11-21, Ezekiel 28:12-19
 
7.  Genesis 3:4-5
 
8.  Genesis 3:6
 
9.  Genesis 3:7
 
10.  Genesis 3:19
 
11.  Romans 5:12
 
12.  Romans 6:23
 
13.  Matthew 15:11, 17-20
 
14.  John 8:44
 
15.  Genesis 1:26
 
16.  Matthew 4:8-9, Luke 4:6-7
 
17.  John 12:31, 16:11
 
18.  Romans 8:19-22
 
19.  John 10:10
 
20.  Romans 3:23
 
21.  2 Peter 3:9
 
22.  John 3:16
 
23.  John 1:1
 
24.  John 1:14
 
25.  2 Corinthians 5:21, Hebrews 4:15
 
26.  Romans 4:25
 
27.  Romans 10:9, 13
 
28.  2 Corinthians 5:17
 
29.  Matthew 6:33
 
30.  John 14:6
 
31.  Revelation 21-22
 
32.  Matthew 6:25-33
 
33.  Matthew 10:28
 
34.  James 5:1
 
35.  2 Corinthians 5:18
 
36.  1 Corinthians 15:51-55, 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18